Love Is An Action

by - Monday, February 13, 2017


Is it normal that I think this way?

I grew up believing that love is more than just a feeling. Being raised in a christian family and schooled in a christian school, I was always taught that there is more to love than just fleeting emotions or rainbows and butterflies. Being the only girl in the family, I always find myself in a conversation about love with my mom and grandma. All I can say is, at 12, it was painfully awkward to listen to the pieces of advice they're giving. I was 12 when they started talking to me about love, courtship, and romance thinking that I'll soon be accepting suitors.

Hi mom! At 12, I may have had a few crushes but I was more engrossed with playing the piano, painting, reading Nancy Drew books, table tennis training, and my comic book collection. I know you knew this but you still kept on reminding. For that, I thank you.

I was taught that love is...
  • service.
  • sacrifice.
  • surrender.
To sum up those three, it basically means you're giving yourself to the other. That's kinda scary, right?
Who would want to give up their wants to make the other happy? Who would want to be inconvenienced to make things convenient for the other? Who would want to give more than what he's receiving? Love is such a bizarre thing. 

 Yes, I'm that hopeless romantic girl who tried to deny for the longest time that she is, infact, a hopeless romantic. I see no point in hiding it now. 

So here's to all the girls who're hoping to, someday, find prince charming... DON'T.
I know I'm such an auntie for telling you this; but believe me, I've been there. I know it's already 2017 and I'm already sounding like a hypocrite but please don't go out looking for your Prince. I'm a firm believer of gender roles and like all fairytale princesses, Princes are the ones doing the pursuing. That's how God designed courtship and relationships to be. That's what I've been taught all my life and this is what I'll be teaching my (future) daughters.

IF A GUY SINCERELY LOVES YOU...

  1. He will protect and  be responsible for your feelings. He won't flirt with you and make you fall head-over-heels for him when he's not even sure of his own feelings. He will protect your emotional well-being because he respects your feelings.
  2. He will man up to tell you and pursue you. This is a no-brain-er. You must've heard the same thing over and over and over again from your moms too. 
  3. He will define the relationship. You shouldn't be clueless or confused as to where you stand in his life. He'll make it clear if you're just a friend or someone he wants to court.
  4. He will do his best to win you over. This is where I'll be using the famous line moms always say, "Pag gusto, laging may paraan. Pag ayaw, laging may dahilan." It's true! If he isn't trying to win your heart and you're doing most of the pursuing, girl... you gotta run as fast and as far as you can away from that boy.
  5. He will never see you as a burden even in situations that you actually are. He'll see you as someone to watch over and take care of not out of obligation... but out of love. 
The list could go on and on but these are just the top 5. Just remember that GOD SEES YOU AS HIS PRINCESS. Don't let any man tell you or make you feel that you're not.

Happy Hearts Day!

from my heart to yours,
Yumi

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