One Night Stands

Sunday, November 26, 2017

I swear I had a list of topics to blog about but I chose this topic because it's one that baffles me the most. Growing up in a super-conservative religious Asian family, "one night stand" is an entirely foreign concept to me. I know there will be people who will disagree with my thoughts on this matter and will even reason out, "It's almost 2018!" I respect whatever your thoughts are on this topic. After all, we can always agree to disagree.

I am not perfect and I've had my fair share of mistakes in life. Our sins may be different from each other; it's still sin nonetheless. May it be the most minute sin you could think of, all the same,  "...the wages of (all) sin(s) is death." It says in Romans 6:23.

Also, this is something I am documenting for future reference on the family values that was instilled in me which I intend to pass on to my children in the future.

Based on my understanding, a one night stand is a one-time sexual encounter and is done with the intent to satisfy one’s own sexual urges. See the red flags? Okay, I'm going to focus on one that i believe is the root cause— greed. 

People do one night stands (act on their lust) for selfish reasons. Both parties involved in a one night stand agree to use each other's body for their own pleasure. You objectify the other person; same with him to you. That way, you deny the other person and yourself of respect.

Why is it widely accepted?

Media glory in liberated sex. Sometimes it is thrown in our faces in defiance. More often it is presented in more subtle, more beautified terms. The heart of liberated sex is the one night stand. What could be more freeing than to have sexual encounters with no strings attached? There is none of the messiness of relationships, none of the burden of commitment.


It's really quite degrading for the human race. How then are we different from dogs if we sleep around— jumping from one sexual partner to another in days, weeks, or a couple of months?

I am not writing this to dictate what is right from wrong or don't do this and that. No. That's already in the bible. Go read up. Also, your parents (or guardians) probably taught you that as well. If not, here's one verse:

In Galatians 5:19-21 it says, "Now the deeds of the flesh are evident, which are: immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmities, strife, jealousy, outbursts of anger, disputes, dissensions, factions, envying, drunkenness, carousing, and things like these, of which I forewarn you, just as I have forewarned you, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God"

I am writing this because I firmly believe that sex is one of the many good things God created for his people to enjoy. But the world has treated sex casually that we are robbed of the real purpose and pleasure of sex.

I really believe that sex isn't just a casual thing. It forms a bond between two people and when done the wrong way, it hurts you. Because the act of sex is giving oneself fully to the other. Fully means emotions are not to be excluded. You cannot have sex with no strings attached because sex binds you and your partner as one.

So now this is the part where people will come up to me saying, "I can have sex anytime and with anyone I want to. This is my body, this is my life... blahblah" Ofcourse you can! God gave us free will to choose right from wrong. So let me ask you this while you're at it, Will it be okay for you to have your future sons and/or daughters live and believe in a culture that supports and promotes one night stands? 

from my heart to yours,

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